If you’re feeling nervous being a single Mom dating again after a long time of being alone, then you are bound to be wary at the thought of the whole dating scene.
Single Mom Dating
A single parent moving into the dating arena has a lot to consider. The first and foremost, being her children!
Depending on the age of the children, you could be taking a big risk if you rushed into a relationship too soon.
Knowing how to attract a man is not as important as knowing how to attract the right man!
On the other hand, if your children are teenagers or even older, then in the main, they will be delighted to see their mother finding love again. Unless, of course, there is a clash of personalities with your children and the new guy, which is very likely but time will heal that situation.
Tips on looking for love. I’ve put these tips into questions to give you food for thought.
The 11 Love Questions you should ask yourself.
1. Do you know enough about the new man you are considering having a long term relationship with?
2. Have you met his friends and his family? How do they interact together?
3. Has he children of his own and if so, are they at a similar age so you can share events together.
4. Has he neglected his own children?
5. If he doesn’t have children, then what are his views on children?
6. Does he show compassion and empathy to your children or is he aloof and just wanting your attention?
7. Has he a great work ethic or will he be a financial burden on you?
8. Will he share the chores or will he be a couch potato or video gamer, while you run around doing everything?
9. What if this new relationship ends suddenly, have you the strength of deal with it without your children being witness to your unhappiness?
10. Is your previous relationship completely in the past with regard to your emotions?
11. What about his previous relationship, do you believe that he is completely free emotionally to start a new relationship with you?
All the questions above have an answer.
You owe it to yourself to be completely honest with these answers so that you can deal with any consequences should the relationship falter, in a confident manner.
Summarize – Love Questions
Let’s look at the last question!
‘Do you believe that he is completely free emotionally to start a new relationship?’
With your own break-up from your last partner, the last thing you would want is to fall in love with someone who is not free to love you back totally.
Emotionally, this could set you back.
Also, the effects this could have on your children could be very upsetting. It could bring up unhappy memories that they had to cope with in their past.
Why put yourself or your children through that?
Should that happen, then let all your sadness out as soon as possible.
Love Advice – Plan it!
• When your children are asleep, get your crying done then.
• Phone your trusted friends for relationship advice and support.
• Write a journal on your feelings. Just get the sadness out of your head and heart.
• Concentrate on the times when the relationship did not suit you.
• Keep focused on those times until time takes its own course and you are ready to move on.
One day you will be able to look back at the relationship with some fondness but the time immediately after the break-up is not the time to dwell on the good times.
All the questions above are just the groundwork and help you to stand back and contemplate just how important it is for you to take your time getting involved with a new partner.
Once you have considered all the above and that you are ready to face the single parent dating scene, then you are in for some exciting and fun times looking for love.
I say “looking for love” but, in essence, you don’t go out looking for love, you let love find you.
Before that can happen, you have to love one other person first.
Yourself!
A lot of women know that this is true but, then there are a lot of women don’t know how to love themselves.
They have always loved others, put others before themselves and possibly had never been shown love at the tender age of impression.
Attracting Love
But it’s easy to love yourself and then attract the love you deserve back onto yourself.
Before the inception of the internet, I found a book advertised in the local paper and bought it because it resonated with me at the time. In fact, I had been diagnosed with abnormal cancer cells.
In the book, I learned that our unhappiness can bring forward cancers and other ‘dis-eases’.
I learned how to love myself unconditionally and alongside, I also healed myself, just as the author, Louise, did.
As I said, I bought the book, not just once but several times.
Once for myself and then many times after that to give as gifts to friends and acquaintances who found their way to me so that they could offload their unhappy situations.
The book is called ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ by Louise Hay.
In the book, you will learn how to heal yourself from within.
Issues from your past which could so well be holding you back from a loving present and future, are resolved through the affirmations Louise shares.
One simple affirmation is just looking in the mirror at yourself and saying “I Love You”
It’ll feel strange at first but the more you do it, the more you will accept it.
Armed with a new found love of yourself and a protective instinct and awareness for the safety of your children, you won’t have to worry about how to attract a good man, he will come right up and surprise you.
All YOU have to do is to believe that you deserve the best and the best will come.
Let go of looking and let it be … just enjoy the single parent dating chapter of your life.
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